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Just trust me.

"WAIT....YOU CAN DO THAT?"
Was the first thing I thought when I realized that I could demand what I wanted without having to yell, dole out ultimatums, or even say anything.
I could show up in a way in which the people around me WANTED to fully support me.
Wha?! What kind of Black Magic Sorcery is that? It's not. It's the energy I give off. I am the Lioness. I have needs and they get to get met. And I don't need to play "silent treatment" games or take away sex to get what I want. I get to have it all and so do you.
The Getting Your Needs Met Masterclass is for you if:

*️⃣ ARE YOU SICK OF BLUFFING?

*️⃣ DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE ALL OF THE TIME?

*️⃣ DO YOU SAY THINGS LIKE, "THIS PLACE WOULD FALL APART WITHOUT ME"?

*️⃣ DO PEOPLE ALWAYS SEEM TO FIND A WAY TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU?

*️⃣ ARE YOU THE KIND OF WOMAN WHO DROPS EVERYTHING TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE YET YOU DON'T RECEIVE THE SAME COURTESY IN RETURN?

*️⃣ AT TIMES, DO YOU FIND YOURSELF FULL OF A WHITE-HOT SMOLDERING RESENTMENT AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOU COULD BLOW AT ANY MINUTE?

*️⃣ ARE YOU FRUSTRATED WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND FEEL LIKE YOU ARE AT YOUR WITS END?

*️⃣ HOW ANNOYED ARE YOU BY HAVING TO TELL PEOPLE WHAT YOU NEED? DON'T YOU JUST WISH YOU DIDN'T HAVE TO TELL THEM? DOESN'T IT FEEL SO OBVIOUS WHAT YOU NEED, YET THEY OBVIOUSLY DON'T CARE ENOUGH TO TAKE ACTION ON IT?

I 100% GET IT.

I USED TO BE THE KIND OF WOMAN WHO NEVER GOT HER NEEDS MET. I ALWAYS TOOK CARE OF EVERYONE ELSE FIRST, AND IT SHOWED. I WAS OBESE, ADDICTED TO PRESCRIPTION PAIN PILLS THAT MY DOCTOR OVER-PRESCRIBED, AND DRANK A LOT MORE THAN I CARED TO ADMIT. ALL OF THIS BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE WEIGHT OF THE WORLD UPON MY SHOULDERS. IT SEEMED LIKE WHAT EVERYONE ELSE WANTED WAS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT I NEEDED.

EVERYTHING CHANGED WHEN I DECIDED TO BECOME THE KIND OF WOMAN WHO GETS WHAT SHE WANTS AND FEELS ZERO GUILT ABOUT IT.

BY THE END OF THIS LIVE 2-HOUR ONLINE MASTERCLASS WITH MELISSA, YOU WILL…
🔥 Go from feeling like you have to do it all to being the kind of woman who is fully supported by the people around her.
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Let it go! Let it go!

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I spent a lot of time and energy wishing my father was different.
 
It just felt so unfair. I grew up believing he was a god. So much so that he actually convinced me that he would never die. I know that sounds silly. Certainly, I didn’t “fully” believe he would live forever, but I did think he would be “that guy” that no matter how hard he pounded his body, that he would somehow survive longer than the rest.
 
In my teenage years, my family fell apart and my father changed. He started spending his time with “unsavory characters”. 100% of the time there was some random “recovering” heroin addict around.
 
One time I went camping with my dad and his new blonde friend, Melissa. She was my age. She had my name. We had the same long blonde hair. But the difference here was that my father’s Melissa, if we can call her that, had to shoot heroin into a vein in her ankle before we headed out to the beach.
 
This was just to be expected. I thought that I needed to deal with that if I wanted to see my dad. I guess I kind of did if I wanted to experience family, as twisted as it was.
 
I spent a lot of time and energy wishing my father was different. I wished he would go back to that man I used to think he was. I kept thinking if I wished hard enough or long enough that somebody was going to come along and put their hand on my shoulder and say,
 
“You know what, Melissa, you're right. We're going to fix your dad up and give you the dad you deserve.”
I felt like I had been cheated somehow. This thought and these feelings got so tight like a ball of rubber bands contracting my heart.
 
And all that I could really think was,
 
“Keep NOT being okay with this and somebody's going to come along and right this injustice for you”
 
but nobody ever did.
 
The last three months of my dad’s life were spent in a hospital bed. He fell in and out of his mind. One moment he would speak to me as if I was his little girl and the next he would speak gibberish. But those days are precious to me because I was able to control what I could never control before. No druggies or drunks around. No women who lost their children to the state. Just my dad and me. I played make-believe that I got that “fixed dad” that I deserved.
 
But when he passed away, I felt like I was mourning the death of two.
 
I cried for the dad I lost in the hospital and I cried for the dad I lost when I was 18.
 
Now, here I was “all alone”. No dad, good or otherwise.
 
I felt very alone. I had no family to “remember the good times with”.
 
“I am all alone” is all I could think and feel. I felt it to my bones. Alone.
 
I spent a lot of time arguing with the past. I couldn’t let go of the idea that I had been ripped off.
 
I would focus a lot on what I didn’t have instead of focusing on all that I had.
 
I told the story of “being alone in the world” so much that I believed it. I felt it. I could not get past it. I would ruminate on it. I tell anyone who would listen,
 
 
“You don’t understand what it’s like to be me! How could you? You have a kind mother who says sweet things about you and a dad that has 100% less heroin addict girlfriends than mine.”
 
 
It came to a point in which I could stand myself no longer than I decided to seek help. My coach told me that I had to mourn the loss of my dad AND who I wished he could have been. I had to bury both of them in the dirt and put them to rest.
 
 
I needed to let go of the idea that things could ever be different because I wasn't allowing myself to move forward.
 
When I allowed myself to process through the grief and the stories, I let go of those grindy thoughts that were keeping me stuck. I really freed myself.
 
It was painful. Psychically painful but it allowed me to heal from both losses. And the truth is, I am not alone. I have a wonderfully supportive/put up with my shit husband who is madly in love with me and healthy happy children that such blessings. I have a lot to be thankful for but I couldn’t see that when I was holding so tightly to “the nuclear childhood I wished I had”.
 
I get it.
 
It feels scary to let go of the idea that someone's going to change. But if you will allow the truth to sink in, you can experience the grief that the lies were protecting you from once and for all. You can let go.
 
 
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XO,
Melissa

WWNLMD?!?

We are getting bracelets made if you want one ;) Want to show up as next-level self? Then all you need to do is remember WWNLMD.

W= What

W= Would

N= Next

L = Level

M = Me

D = Do

 

What would next-level me do? Then do that! 

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What’s more important for weight loss, fitness or nutrition?

The million-dollar question! Want to know what's more important for weight loss, fitness or nutrition? When I first started my weight loss journey, I did too. Let's talk about it. As you might imagine, it's more complicated than it seems. You are an eco-system. You can't compartmentalize weight loss down to just fitness or nutrition.  

 

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The Abundant AF Mindset

The Weight Loss Rockstar Challenge starts Monday. You can sign up for free here: https://www.melissaronda.com/weightlossrockstar

 

Today we are talking about an abundant AF mindset. I did some journaling on how I used to think vs how I think now and there a many blaring differences. 

 

"Old Melissa" used to think thoughts like:

  • This is so hard!
  • Why does this need to be so difficult?
  • I should be there by now!
  • This should be easier!
  • Why is she further along in her weight loss journey?
  • This isn't fair.

The "New Melissa" thinks thoughts like:

  • Well, now I know what doesn't work.
  • This doesn't mean anything but that I need to change a little something.
  • The results I am getting are due to what I'm putting in. I'm going to need to amp it up if I want better results.

 

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Creating Your Weight Loss Rockstar Alter Ego

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Do I really need to track my food forever?!

OMG all this stuff? I have to do this forever?! Tracking, counting, measuring, logging, planning, etc etc etc?!

 

IDK, let's find out. Is tracking your food the only way to lasting weight loss?

 

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How to Get a J Lo Body in Your 40s and 50s

Dear Salty Moms,

I get you. I totally understand your response to the Super Bowl Halftime Show.

It makes total sense that you would be triggered by a 50-year-old woman dressing like that...dancing like that.

I bet you had a visceral reaction to it and on impulse, you turned to social media to share your outrage.

You were looking to connect.

You were looking for other women to join in the witch hunt.

You were hoping you weren't the only one feeling all those feels.

"How dare she?"

It really hurts, doesn't it?

Here you are halfway through your life and it's not what you hoped it would be.

You catch yourself thinking, "This can't be all there is to life!"

I remember thinking similar thoughts and feeling similar feelings.

My lovely, I get it. I just want to wrap my arms around you and show you love. I want to squeeze you so hard, let you cry one last big ugly cry, and I will whisper in your ear...

"Get your motherfucking ass up woman! You are wasting the best years of your life."

I know it feels safer believing someone has it easier than accepting the fact that you aren’t living to your potential.

But the truth is, you should be scared of being resentful and bitter.

My experience is this, the longer I’m on this planet, the better I get at it.

The more money I have.

The more confidence I have.

My kids are older and I have more time.

The more comfort I am with who I am.

I'm not afraid of what people think.

You get to think that too if you want.

You get to turn this ship around this very instant.

You get to be the kind of woman who looks at J Lo and Shakira and thinks, "Look at my sisters representing."

It's so much better on this side. Come on over.

We will sprinkly love upon you in the Bad Bitches Losing Weight Facebook Community.

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Stop Cravings for Foods that are No Longer Serving You

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The 5 Ds of Weight Loss Motivation

Desire:

Got to get there. Where you’re at has to suck so bad you want out damn it!

 

Decision:

A decision is a commitment to a thought.

 

Discomfort:

That’s where change comes from.

Creating space between wanting something + responding. 

Think about how many times you “tapped out” gone on auto-pilot.

 

Discipline:

Shall we get over the idea that we need to want to do something in order to do it?

Shall we come to peace w/ the fact that 50% of life sucks + 50% is amazing?

It’s certainly better than low-key all sucking?

 

Direction:

If you don’t have a solid plan, you are toast.

I cannot reiterate this enough, if you are overweight your number one priority should be taking caloric management.

 

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